A week or so ago I discovered quite by accident that Gal Smiley has a new bus buddy. His name is Big A and he’s in Captain Jelly Belly’s class, so he’s at least a year older than the Gal. I found out that they were bus friends when I picked the kids up from school one day, and I heard him yelling at Gal Smiley on the way to the bus that he wanted to sit with her.
So nice, I thought.
Then this evening, I was chatting at bedtime with Gal Smiley, and Big A came up, and she said that it’s weird how he is always kissing her.
I kept it cool, though, because I’m a cool-headed mom like that.
“Oh, really? Where is he kissing you?”
“On the cheek or on the nose, and one time on my eyeball but that was an accident.”
“And does this happen every day? Or just one or two times?”
“Oh, every day, he is ALWAYS kissing me.”
I didn’t say anything about it because I wanted to get Sir Monkeypants’ read on the situation first. We both think this is something that makes us feel awkward and unhappy. On the one hand, Gal Smiley does say that she “LOOOOOVES IT” when Big A kisses her. But on the other hand, when she is sitting on the bus with him (she sits wedged into a seat, between him on the aisle and his friend on the window side)…she probably feels like she’s supposed to be having fun. That these are her friends, and that’s what friends do. Right?
I don’t know. Do you think I should freak out? Or should I let it slide? Is it innocent fun that means nothing, or should I defend my daughter against peer pressure to do something that maybe makes her uncomfortable?
Should I take her word for it that it doesn’t bother her, or should I try to put an end to it, no matter what?
It’s a grey area, that’s for sure.
I think we are leaning towards asking her to sit either with her brother or with a girl on the bus, and no more sitting with Big A. But the bus is a huge, lawless environment where anything can happen — the boy who lives across the street from us is having his own bully issues with another boy on the bus right now — and having peeps, friendly faces to sit with every day, means a lot. I’m not sure Gal Smiley is strong enough to say no, and there’s no one on the bus to enforce it for her.
(Captain Jelly Belly is a strict stay-out-of-it-lay-low-and-hope-no-one-sees-you kind of guy.)
I don’t know, I’m probably overreacting, right? I’m thinking I just might pick them up more often, though.