Sad

Thanks so much for all your lovely comments about my Nana. It’s been a sad couple of days but we are all doing okay.

It’s strange at times like these to live so far from my mom. I’ve talked to her on the phone, as well as to my three sisters, but I think I need the catharsis of being actually with them. There isn’t going to be an official service so I’m heading down in a couple of weeks with FameThrowa to help pack up my Nana’s house, which I’m sure will be a barrel of laughs! All weekend long!

At the very least, I think it will bring some release.

I’m struggling right now with what to tell the kids. They know my Nana, almost as well as they know my mom, but her loss probably won’t have any impact on their day-to-day lives. I’m hesitant to sit them down and make a Big Announcement, like something Major And Life Changing has Happened, because it seems too heavy-handed and will freak them out more than is called for. But Mommy is somewhat sad, and there is a person in their life who isn’t going to be there any more, and shouldn’t I maybe mention that? In passing?

I’m sure I’ll figure something out.

7 thoughts on “Sad

  1. Ohh, I was so sorry to read about your Nana. Your post was a very lovely tribute. I loved the photos!

    We’ve had a couple of deaths in our circle (both people and pets) and we’ve just done taken the “we have some sad news …” route. Plain and simple and direct.I think it’s important to share, and you don’t need to make a massive production about sitting on the sofa, taking a deep breath and making a proclamation.

    How about around the dinner table?

    No matter how you do it it’s going to be hard. I think being direct is the best route. But please please don’t use the “death is like just sleeping” line if they ask you. I was traumatized for years when I got that one. (Still am!)

  2. My sympathies to you and your family Lynn. I was 23 when my father passed away and I was left with the job of calling all of our extended family. You’ll know when the time is right to tell your little ones. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  3. Just tell them — maybe over dinner and tell them you’re sad and they’ll get that and it won’t traumatize them, but it might give them a whole new perspective on you and family and life in general and then they’ll finish their dinner and go out and play, but it will be something they’ll remember. My condolences

  4. Lynn, I hope that your visit with your Sisters and Mom to pack up Nana’s house will help you get that closure you are looking for.

    We have always been honest with our kids about death, it just seemed easier than trying to explain why we lied about it. The first time someone passed away, J was very small and didn’t really understand, but the second and third time he really understood. We felt that he handled it all very well and still talks of those family members with love.

  5. My thoughts are with you Lynn. M (4 years) still asks me where Pepere went (my grandfather who passed away last fall). I tell him the truth but he finds it hard to understand. I figure I will just keep telling him the truth until it clicks.

  6. Sorry just catching up. I just told The Boy but my grandmother (mainly because my mom was bound to be upset.) But he’s been ok with it. No big questions. I suppose being honest is the best thing as hard as it is, I think they know when we’re upset…

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